Is online dating easier for single female expats in Paris than for their male counterparts? ‘Of course,' you might be thinking. It's hardly the unsolved question of the century.
However, it's always important to back up a premise with arguments and facts. And, that's what a group of researchers did when they began analysing the likelihood of getting a response in online dating for men vs. women.
What they found isn't particularly shocking. According to the study, women respond to men's messages on online dating sites 4% of the times while men respond to women about 18% of the time. Translation: a straight single male expat in Paris will have to send 25 messages to women to get a response while a straight woman will only have to send five.
The truth is that online dating is a double-edged sword for everyone. If you are among the many singles in Paris, Expatica Dating Paris gives you access to a growing community. We can't change the fact that men have to work almost five times as hard to get someone interested in them and that women have to sift through tons of messages from obnoxious people, but we can give you some tips to help you stand out and increase your likelihood of finding love abroad:
1. Make an Effort to Be Creative
When they send a message, most single men in Paris compliment the woman, reference something in her profile, or ask a general question. If the woman is an expat, they usually ask why she chose to move to Paris, which can get boring.
Instead, try to write a message that's more creative and personal. This doesn't mean you should write your entire life story (you don't want to come across as needy). Ask questions about her life and give some information about yourself to maintain a balanced conversation.
2. But, Don't Over Do It
While it's important to show interest, try not to go overboard. Don't reply to her messages too frequently or too intensely. Also, don't start using cute nicknames after just a few emails. And, from time to time, you can play the cool card and wait for her to suggest meeting up.
3. Be Honest
Be honest when you describe yourself and don't try to be something you're not to impress women. Don't post a fake photo and don't invent job titles. When you describe yourself, you should state some of the downsides also. If, for example, you tend to lose your keys a lot, mention this in your profile in a disarming way.
4. Don't Introduce Sex Into the Conversation
This advice should be pretty obvious, but a lot of men overlook it and make sexual comments. Needless to say, they are rejected without a second thought. Leave it up to the woman to introduce sex into the conversation, and even then be very careful about what you say. This is a very delicate subject, especially if you are a single expat in Paris, where values are different from those back home.
1. It's OK to Make the First Move
If you are interested in someone, don't wait too long to get in touch. Send messages to single men in Paris you like instead of only responding Take the bull by the horns and send him a message first.
2. Adopt a Thick Skin
Don't feel bad if he doesn't reply to your message within a few days. He might be a new member of Expatica Dating Paris still trying to figure out how online dating works. If he doesn't respond to your second message either, don't get discouraged. Honestly, it's his loss, not yours. Just remember that every steps brings you closer to finding the perfect Paris single for you.
3. Be Cautious and Don't Rush
Don't assume that the single expat in Paris you are interested in is as honest as you are. Accept the fact that some people will try to allure you with an unrealistic version of themselves. Don't reveal too much information until you feel sure about a person. If you go on a date, meet in a public place and tell your friends. If you don't feel comfortable enough, don't feel pressured to meet.
4. But, Do Take It Offline Eventually
On the other hand, if the chemistry is right, don't exchange dozens of emails over the course of months before taking it offline. If the date doesn't work out, don't get discouraged; it's better to know sooner than later. Get back online and continue on your quest to find love in Paris.
If you haven't joined our community for expat singles in Paris yet, now is the time to do so. You can create your account for free and, within seconds, you will be ready to find your soulmate.
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